
Of the 90% of assaults in which the survivor knows the perpetrator, approximately half of these occur on a date. Fact: Nothing is ever implied, consent must always be clear. Myth: If a person goes to their date’s room on the first date, it implies they are willing to have sex. Many rapes involve force or the threat of force, but rapes are also committed while the victim is under the influence of drugs or alcohol, or when asleep. Fact: 90% of sexual assaults on college campuses are committed by someone the victim knows. Myth: Rape is usually violent and involves a stranger. Perpetrators of rape are not only men, and anyone is able to stop at any point. Rape is not an act of impulse or uncontrollable passion it is an intentional act of violence. Myth: When it comes to sex, men can be provoked to “a point of no return.” Fact: Men are physically able to stop at any point during sexual activity. Their partner is responsible for respecting their decision to stop. Fact: Consent is retractable a person can change their mind at any time. Myth: It’s not really rape when a person changes their mind in the middle of sexual activity. Fact: Rape and sexual assault are about control and domination. Myth: Rape and sexual assault are about sexual attraction and gratification. The perpetrator may select a victim who is smaller or weaker than they are, who is alone or isolated, who is incapacitated or handicapped in some way, or who does not suspect what is about to happen. The perpetrator does not choose the victim because they are young, pretty, or provocatively dressed the perpetrator chooses the victim who is vulnerable. Fact: Any person of any gender, age, race, class, religion, occupation, physical ability, sexual identity, or appearance can be raped. Myth: Rape happens only to “certain” types of women. The most effective way to confront and tackle rape myths is to educate yourself on the facts and challenge them when you encounter them.

These false statements not only shame survivors into silence they also hurt our community’s general knowledge of sexual assault, dating violence, and stalking. Rape myths have grown out of the long-standing gender roles, acceptance of violence, and incorrect information concerning sexual violence that exist in our society.

Rape myths are false beliefs people hold about sexual assault that shift blame from the perpetrator to the survivor. We encourage you to proceed with caution and reach out to confidential resources if you need additional support. Content Warning: Please note that reading the following false statements may be upsetting or triggering to some.
